Gracious ladies

  "a gracious woman retaineth honor..." Proverbs 11:16 a. Are we gracious women? in our day of age, girls are not taught different speaking patterens than boys. many girls, including myself, use slang words, like "sick" or "sad" or "that rocks" . perhaps you have heard girls say "dude" , "idiot" or "bogus". None of these are good enough for a good godly woman to use. why?
      1. Just because a man says certain words, does not give t woman freedom to use them. men always had their own more vulgar language. I have been studying the Japanese language for some time now. in Japan, women have a nicer speech  than the normal one, and men have a more vulgar one. curse words should never be used by anyone, don't get me wrong.  but words like dude, or perhaps idiot have a place, but not for a Godly woman.
       2. The Bible makes it clear that there is a distinct difference between men and women. men are the protectors and providers, and women are the helpmeets. men may need to use a more vulgar language at times to defend you. woman have no need to use a vulgar language.
      Then what kindof language is appropriate language for women?
    well, lets pretend this is a grammar class then, it will be easier to understand. 
     here are the rules of the female language, (at least what i believe sounds feminine)
       1. words that denote a form of stupidity should not be used.
             i.e. idiot, stupid, dummy, retard, 
            rather, you should use pity in your expressions toward the foolish.
           Exapmple:  
                   That idiot passed me on the right!
               to fix it, we should omit idiot, and replace it with a kinder phrase.
                   that poor foolish man will hurt himself if he drives like that. he is blessed to not have 
                     been injured!
       2. correct word usage should be on our tounges.
           fix this sentance: i woulda been better at that if i practiced more.
             use instead:       If i had practiced, I would have been better at that. 
       3. use of the words should have, would have, or could have, can not, would not or should not as opposed to should've , would've or could've, can't,won't, or shouldn't sound far more feminine and intelligent.
               ex. I should've been there! I can't believe I missed it
                  -or- i should have been there. I can not believe I  missed it.
      4. the proper use of the word have has and have give a more feminine connotation.
                example: I can not believe i missed it!
                                 I can not believe i had missed it!
       5. we should avoid slang like "man", "dude" or "o boy", and replace them with more gracious words, like dear, oh my, or o dear,
          example: Oh boy! I'm excited
                       Instead: oh My! I'm excited!
                          -or- Man! what were you doing?
                        Instead : oh dear! what were you doing?
     6. use of slang like sick., sad, or retarded should not be used.
                      ex.  that is sick!
                    instead: that is not right!
                       or : that is so retarded
                        Instead: that is not wise!
                     or :they don't have it, sad!
                          instead: they don't have it, too bad!
     7.   lastly, a list of good feminine phrases
                oh my!                 wonderful
               would have           could have
               should have          goodness!
                oh how silly!         very nice
             that is good           poor foolish (man, woman, child)
              oh, the poor lost soul
           

    let us try some on our own! copy the section below and paste it to a word program document, then print it!(or print this page!)
     Rewrite the sentances below to sound more feminine.
    1. Dude! what is wrong with you?


  2. what's that?



  3. that stupid woman! she shouldn't have done that.


4.   oh man! I can't believe it!


 5. excuse me, why can't I do this?

  


  Answers:   1.  dear, what is wrong with you? , 2. what is that (was that) ? 3. that poor foolish woman, she should not have done that.    4.  Oh dear! I can not believe it!  5. excuse me, why can I not do this?



      Hope you enjoyed this!  -delighted daugher
   p.s. , it also helps too speak in a sweet soft voice, but loud and clear enough for people to hear and understand you.  be considerate, and you should do fine!



           


                             
   
                 
 

Beautiful Wednesdays!

   Beauty tip for the Day
Being truly feminine is a challenge, especially for those who are not, well, slim. In the stores it is hard to find beautiful, yet modest clothes for the plus sized population. Many of them accentuate the shape of the plump woman’s body, and leave things visible that should not be. And if it is not like that, it is dull, and careless looking. How can one look beautiful in a giant black bag? The sections almost always lack color, as if the only color these people can wear is black and white. I like pink, as much as I don’t mind black, it is not styled beautifully in this section…and it gets dull. How can we be beautiful, feminine, and modest?
  Well, my #1 tip is, make sure your hair is fixed neatly. Is it sloppy, knotty, or unfixed? (I don’t mean that you can’t let it hang down, but make sure you brush it!) the Bible teaches us in 1 Corinthians 11 that a woman should have long hair. Does your hair go past your shoulders? It seems that many people to day think long hair means “not buzz cut”, or they do not apply  the “long hair” principle. Prayerfully ask God about length, but I  feel convicted that “to your shoulders” is long hair….
   Tip#2, Wear hair bows, head coverings, or hats. They add a beautiful finishing touch to the top of your head, and create a beautiful feminine touch.
    Tip#3, wash your face and brush your teeth twice a day. This helps your face stay beautiful. I also would suggest steering away from much eye makeup. This is the only makeup mentioned in the Bible that is described as wrong. It was always to allure boys. I knew girls who went crazy on their eye makeup to attract boys. In fact, all you could see is that the girl has a lot of makeup on.  Learn to appreciate the natural face God gave you. He painted it Himself!
   Tip #4, wear an apron! Especially during the day while you are home! It makes a nice touch, and for me it helps keep me motivated. Perhaps you can wear a nice scarf or necklace when you go out. Wear simple jewelry though, not big and gaudy, but simple sweet pearls, or small gold necklaces. The big bulky stones will not help you look prettier…maybe just a bit bigger…
   Tip #5, wear a sleeveless  top (not a tank top, but a shirt with small sleeves and a pretty material and design.) that is not form fitting, with a tee shirt underneath, or in the cold, take advantage of cardigans that are only buttoned at the top. This is cute and beatifying, plus, you aren’t proclaiming to the whole world that you are not small. 
    Tip#6 , Never wear pants!!! They are not modest plus, on a larger figure, it doesn’t help make you look small. Wear a flowing skirt, not a form fitting one. They are hard to walk in! don’t let the skirt go above the bottom of your knee.
   Tip# 7 wear dresses! Wear ones where the waist comes right below the bosom or that does not have one. They middle waist or  low waist does not make you look slimmer!
    Tip# 8 make your own clothes. Wear lots of feminine colors. pinks, blues, greens, purples, whites, yellows, you name it!  It helps you feel feminine!  Making your own clothes allows you to create the perfect fit, and get the colors you want!
  Tip #9, work out! Even if you don’t loose weight, it helps to contract your muscles, which automatically makes you feel healthier and look more slim. Drink lots of water too to prevent dry skin.
  Tip #10, use natural cleaners. I use glycerin soaps in my hair, and haven’t needed any conditioner since! My hair feels soft and silky now. Use natural scents too, like lavender oil, sandalwood, rose…. Look and smell feminine!
   The most important thing is to appreciate the way God made you, and to take care of your body, so you can bring Him glory!
             God bless your endeavors!
       - Delighted daughter