Stay at home daughterhood: is it in the Bible?

  The truth is, I am not a full time stay at home daughter,I have a job at a local pizza store for 8 hours a week. it is hard to figure out exactly how to apply stay at home daughterhood. while there is freedom in the Bible to live as a stay at home daughter through different applications, I often find myself and people wondering about my social abilities and laziness that could come about through "being home" all the time. personally, I can see why.I have a history of complaining and sitting around doing nothing. I want that to change. Currently, I am in the "early stages" of stay at home daughterhood. My time is spent now on trying to figure out where it is found in the Bible. My family is very theological, and often has discussions in which I have a hard time backing up my points. this is the reason why it is important to show exact backup for my points from the Bible. People want to see me telling them from the Bible, not just from so and so's reasoning .(not that it is wrong to read books on the subject: i am a advocate of such things!)
     Truth #1- In the Bible, women stayed home and were commanded to be taught to be "keepers at home". Isn't it amazing how silent the bible is on unmarried women? it says "young women", which people always take to mean  "wife". It does not say "wife" though?does it?  My sister points out that the Greek word (used in Titus 2 verse 4) generally means "woman" and could mean old, or married, or young woman, or just plain woman. the verse before it, which says older "women" also is the same word. Perhaps the Greek word is general. But when we say "woman" in English, it also can mean any of those things. ("the woman down the street" could be old, or young, or married, or unmarried...etc) but by translation, throughout multiple translations, including modern ones like NIV or ESV, "young" or "younger"woman is always used. Why not "wives"?  I looked at Bible gateway at many translations, I even Google translated the Chinese verses in Titus 2, and still, it says "young woman". many of them say "admonish" or "train" or "teach" all of these skills to them. it is a little late to "teach" someone or "train" someone for something they already have to be able to do, wouldn't you say?
     Truth # 2- the Bible never really mentions a "godly woman" who went out and made a life for herself. Dinah went out of her house and went out into the town: She was given to fornication. there is nothing indicating she was raped. this happens to many women who go out to see "the daughters of the land" (worldly friends, worldly entertainment etc).  Jezebel also wanted to make a name for herself: she was said to be an evil woman.  many people come to a few contradictions with these thoughts.
     Firstly, they recall Ruth. the Girl who worked in the fields and randomly came across a relative. well, first, she collected donations, she had to "go out" to get them, but she did not work for wages as a man would. she did not get a job. she accepted donations. she was protected by Boaz, now, this did happen By Grace,but one thing is true, she was donated to, and was protected under the Biblical laws of gleaning. after she found her kinsman, she did not leave his protection. later, she married him.
   next, they may recall the women who followed Jesus. they were all married, but "wondering about" with Christ. they were like female missionaries. these women, though traveling about, were ina feminine role. they did not teach or preach, but they prepared him food and care while he was around. they also came from somewhat unbiblical situations. one of them was possessed by demons, the other was the wife of Chuza, who served Herod,(if Chuza really loved Christ, would he not leave that high position? perhaps his wife had been persecuted and she needed the safety of Christ to protect her)  Susanna is the only one that we do not know much about. But in general, things were different While Christ was on earth, in the New Testament, men were told not to leave their wives for long periods of time (1Corinthians 7:5), But the disciples, some whom were married, traveled all of the time. these are not contradictions, but things which needed happen during this time to teach the people God's plan of salvation.
     Fact#3: The idea of women leaving their homes for a "job" is not condoned in the Bible, But a woman working from her home is, and is in fact, encouraged (proverbs 31).

   Does this mean a woman can never go outside her home? NO!
  It means, in general, her Job is her family.God gave her that job, While God gave men the job to provide for their families physically, spiritually, and emotionally. men is any male, married or unmarried, and woman means any woman, married or unmarried. God is a God of order, he does not give commands for unmarried men with married men, and not do the same for woman.
   are you not married? Not in the Business of raising children? Serve your mother and father. help with your siblings. assist a new mother with her child and house work. you can get out and do things, but in a different sphere. go grocery shopping for mom, be a hostess to your neighbors by having them over for dinner and some fun. we are living Bibles. Have tea parties with ladies at church in your home or their homes. there are lots of social opportunities! (you can even write a blog as a ministry where ministry opportunities are limited.lol!)
   Remember too, that when it comes to marriage, you will not likely meet your husband in the world. the best place to find a drunkard is a bar, and the best place to find a godly man is through ministry. get involved in a church if one is available to you.My family is trying to find a godly Church now, but for now, the only opportunities for ministry is in My home. but I know God has perfect timing, and one perfect man for me. he will bring him to me in his timing, no matter where! so going to church and having godly friends is important!
 
  Titus 2 also says that we are to live this way so that the world has no reason to blaspheme God. That is a big assignment!
    So remember, it is a Biblical command. How we apply it may vary, but it must be applied, with all dilligence!

God Bless!
-Delighted daughter

dealing with Mount Fuji

    Let me warn you... this article has nothing to do with the beautiful mountain in Japan. though you may have hoped to read about the geography of a mountain with the sun rising against it's soft grey rock, you aren't going to.. at least, not now.
     Sometimes one can sit and wonder what to do. They may plan to do something, prepare to do it, rev themselves up for it, but then, run out of time to actually do it. I have this problem. I can only count how many times i wanted to read, and I would prepare by fixing my bed to make it comfy, getting a cup of tea, picking the book up and putting it on the bed in a attractive way, perhaps with a pencil lined up beside it in an artistic way before i even sit down to read. then it is too late, and I learn nothing.  the same with cleaning my room. I might read about cleaning, put an apron on, pick out a nice work dress, fix my hair in such a way, pose with the broom, and "motivate myself"; in the end, however, i still need to get the room clean,  and the day is far spent. so i put it off till later.  the root of this really is procrastination.
    I tend to procrastinate, especially on cleaning my room. that little room makes me crazy! (in fact, the  mount Fuji of stuff is sitting in my room right now...) there is only one thing I could do about it though... do it!
   Another thing that turns me away from doing my work is my sometimes negative attitude.  I will go in, look at mount Fuji (the mess) , then decide that it wasn't my fault the room is a mess. the room is small, and little ants probably carry stuff out of their place at night while I'm sleeping (well, I'm not that crazy! LOL!). sometimes I decide to dwell on problems and blame the mess for my negative attitude.  it is really a cycle, isn't it?
     I am sure there are lots of girls who have the same struggle ( at least, I hope so! Otherwise I'm crazy!). The best thing you can do when you are stressed out about this is pray and take some time to read the Bible. (don't let yourself get out of your job though!) then , look at the mess and say "We are more than conquerors through him that loved us, And I'm going to conquer this mountain, and defeat it once and for all!" (well, at least until next time the mountain rises up again.)
   Another thing you can do is put nice music in the radio and let it play while you work. make sure it's nice music though, like soft instruments or classical. the whole loud singing thing doesn't help a stressed out mind.
    it may help to have a to do list as well, especially with big projects. for example, you need to clean your room, so, first you will go through the stuff the right corner of the room, then you will tidy the dresser, and put all the clothes away that are laying on the floor. etc.
     lastly, don't let your mind fill up with negative thoughts. that is one of my biggest distractions. the thoughts that God must have forgotten about you because he let your room get messy (which He didn't), or that your mom should have told you to clean it four weeks ago when it wasn't so bad (and, again, you could have done that yourself!), or that your brother made the mess when he borrowed your Bible yesterday (now, maybe a part of the mess, but Mount Fuji isn't rising because of  a borrowed Bible unless you have bad organizational skills.. then that needs to be fixed..)
     So, Just remember, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me" (Philippians 4:13), and defeat the Mount Fuji before you, because you can in Christ.