Think of the many lies christian women are lead to believe: "clothes don't matter, once saved always saved." or "Real women have careers.", "femininity is weak!", "Music doesn't affect me", "flirting is a necessary evil", "Men have Low IQ's" , " I should go far away to school so I can learn how to live my own life","You can have multiple boyfriends and get the guy you think is cute's attention because you are not married." , "I have to make difference and prove myself" , "I can't prove myself while i am unmarried unless i get somewhere in a career.", Lastly, "I can be a missionary to a foreign country in my twenties until i get married"
These are modern philosophies that especially women are taught. Women need to be extra able to care for themselves in case an emergency happens, at least that is the message I hear. In fact, if you don't do that, people may be lead to think that you are oppressed, indoctrinated against your will, or old fashioned and useless. I hear it all the time. The strangest thing is, that people always tell you to do what you want to do with your life, but that does not include "learning to be a homemaker". That is already taught you, or suppresses you from your potential, perhaps it even can be done when mommy makes dinner and you watch sometimes. She learned it on her own after marriage, why can't you? there just has to be something or some kind of goal and outside activity going on up until you are married. It is, in fact, true. But how can one do that while preforming within the sphere God gave us?
1. We must know the sphere God placed us in. Women are Men's assistants. that is what God made women for. That is God's perfect plan and purpose for women! Their domain is the home. just read the beginning of Genesis and Titus 2. The purpose for women is defined there. it is further added to in Proverbs 31: A domestic entrepreneur! she works, yes. To be rich? no. to get a nice car? no. to benefit yourself? while it does in fact benefit you, i have to say , NO! a "home business" is meant to benefit your home and to benefit the people of God. read proverbs 31! She gives help to the needy! Through her work, she helps her home, and makes a good name for her husband, or in our case, her father!
Getting out of the house will be touched up on in a future post. Sayonara sisters!
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Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
What if?
Many a person worries about the welfare of their children as they grow up. "what happens if My daughter never gets married?" or "what if her husband or father dies?" , These are legitimate questions that need appropriate answering.
for question #1, The Bible is our final authority. Look at these statistics: In 2008, 29.4% of men and 22.7% of women ages 18 and over had never married. - U.S. Census Bureau. “America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2008.” (source http://www.unmarried.org/statistics.html)
Or:
"The percentage of adults who are married
declined between 1970 and 2009, from
72 percent to 62 percent for women and from
84 percent to 66 percent for men. In 2009,
15 percent of women and 20 percent of men
had never married, compared to 7 percent and
9 percent, respectively, in 1970. " Source: http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/rss_viewer/Women_in_America.pdf
" Historically 85-90 percent of Americans eventually marry. Ninety percent!" (source
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001325.cfm)
While the rate of marriage did decrease, it is still only approximately a 15-20% chance that you won't get married. This also is only partially true, because this is general America, not christian culture: many women , while they never marry are in "dating" relationships, as a sinful cohabitation. i
Click here to go to an article referring to the "deficit" of Christian men to women.
so that first question is answered: Christian woman are very likely to get married, perhaps not at age 20 (unfortunately), but they likely will eventually.It comes down to trust in God. God has the ultimate plan for the Universe, and for every individual in it. whether you decide to wait for God's best, or decide to "do it on your own your own way", God will make it work, but in the second case, not they way He intended or the best way.
Question Number 2 is a tricky one. many woman are left widowed in our country. according to Boundless, (see click here article above) the number of widows to widowers is 4-1 in christian circles. now, what age are these widows?
"The U.S. Census Bureau puts the average age of widowhood at 55." (source: http://www.netwellness.org/question.cfm/23161.htm)
So, this If it happens, will likely happen when the woman is older, and has children to help care for her.
This is how it was intended to be in the Bible. I believe that a daughter or son should take in an elderly parent(s), this is a way of repaying them for all they did for you, it is also a biblically sound model portrayed by Ruth and Naomi in the book of Ruth.
God does not plan for anyone to be outside of families, alone. The only group of people I find in the Bible living on their own unmarried men. take a look at Paul, or Jacob. Still though, they lived with or near families most of their Christian or Jewish lives.difference: They cared for themselves. Paul Made tents to sell, he made his own money, even while serving God!
Now back question #2: what about if their father dies? Girls, Don't be without some kind of skill that can make money from home. now, the only mention of women being alone is widowed or divorced women, not unmarried. But even then, many a girl moved back to her father's house (mentioned in Leviticus). Why can't a daughter help the wife of one of her Brothers? or , perhaps, assist her unmarried brother in his mission or vision? she would make things to sell or what not to earn extra income for herself and his home, But she certainly should not be alone, especially in her youth (twenties).
Perhaps she can move in with a family from the church who has a bunch of little children and needs a hand. this is not only providing a home, but reciprocating a service to the poor tired wife!
These are some simple answers for the few tough questions. The summary of the whole page is really Trust God, keep His commandments, and follow His ways, and He will lead you to hope.
for question #1, The Bible is our final authority. Look at these statistics: In 2008, 29.4% of men and 22.7% of women ages 18 and over had never married. - U.S. Census Bureau. “America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2008.” (source http://www.unmarried.org/statistics.html)
Or:
"The percentage of adults who are married
declined between 1970 and 2009, from
72 percent to 62 percent for women and from
84 percent to 66 percent for men. In 2009,
15 percent of women and 20 percent of men
had never married, compared to 7 percent and
9 percent, respectively, in 1970. " Source: http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/rss_viewer/Women_in_America.pdf
" Historically 85-90 percent of Americans eventually marry. Ninety percent!" (source
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001325.cfm)
While the rate of marriage did decrease, it is still only approximately a 15-20% chance that you won't get married. This also is only partially true, because this is general America, not christian culture: many women , while they never marry are in "dating" relationships, as a sinful cohabitation. i
Click here to go to an article referring to the "deficit" of Christian men to women.
so that first question is answered: Christian woman are very likely to get married, perhaps not at age 20 (unfortunately), but they likely will eventually.It comes down to trust in God. God has the ultimate plan for the Universe, and for every individual in it. whether you decide to wait for God's best, or decide to "do it on your own your own way", God will make it work, but in the second case, not they way He intended or the best way.
Question Number 2 is a tricky one. many woman are left widowed in our country. according to Boundless, (see click here article above) the number of widows to widowers is 4-1 in christian circles. now, what age are these widows?
"The U.S. Census Bureau puts the average age of widowhood at 55." (source: http://www.netwellness.org/question.cfm/23161.htm)
So, this If it happens, will likely happen when the woman is older, and has children to help care for her.
This is how it was intended to be in the Bible. I believe that a daughter or son should take in an elderly parent(s), this is a way of repaying them for all they did for you, it is also a biblically sound model portrayed by Ruth and Naomi in the book of Ruth.
God does not plan for anyone to be outside of families, alone. The only group of people I find in the Bible living on their own unmarried men. take a look at Paul, or Jacob. Still though, they lived with or near families most of their Christian or Jewish lives.difference: They cared for themselves. Paul Made tents to sell, he made his own money, even while serving God!
Now back question #2: what about if their father dies? Girls, Don't be without some kind of skill that can make money from home. now, the only mention of women being alone is widowed or divorced women, not unmarried. But even then, many a girl moved back to her father's house (mentioned in Leviticus). Why can't a daughter help the wife of one of her Brothers? or , perhaps, assist her unmarried brother in his mission or vision? she would make things to sell or what not to earn extra income for herself and his home, But she certainly should not be alone, especially in her youth (twenties).
Perhaps she can move in with a family from the church who has a bunch of little children and needs a hand. this is not only providing a home, but reciprocating a service to the poor tired wife!
These are some simple answers for the few tough questions. The summary of the whole page is really Trust God, keep His commandments, and follow His ways, and He will lead you to hope.
Monday, April 4, 2011
Spring Is sprung!
ahh, Nothing makes me happier than nice 65 degree weather, with sunshine and plenty of garden work! sometimes I like to compare myself with a flower, I need warm sunshine to keep me motivated! this can't possibly be true, because no matter what the weather is, you have got to keep going! i am the worst culprit for making excuses. "i feel tired today" or "ugh, the sun is behind the clouds, so I can't think.." These things are NOT excuses to keep me from going! my issue is one that i am sure that is universal and a common issue with many girls. How do we overcome this?
Firstly, we must remember that God never gave up on His goals and purposes. He asked us to work hard, He didn't make excuses for cloudy skies. If He had done that, we would surely suffer! This is enough motivation to help us keep going: We do it to bring glory to Our Heavenly Father!
Second, Remember that other people depend on us to do our work. Messy bedroom (my worst enemy!)?
Well, what if mama want's to show her friends the house, how embarrassing it is to show off a messy room!
it may seem to be a "selfish" endeavor, believe me! I am one to put that off for any reason under the sun.
Thirdly, It gives us a feeling of accomplishment. one sleeps better and is happier if they have worked hard. they know they got what they needed to get done, done. I always feel better and healthier when i finish a goal! what a relief!
Remember, we must keep going! even when it is cold and cloudy and you'd rather stay in bed all day.
God bless!
-Dedicated Daughter
Firstly, we must remember that God never gave up on His goals and purposes. He asked us to work hard, He didn't make excuses for cloudy skies. If He had done that, we would surely suffer! This is enough motivation to help us keep going: We do it to bring glory to Our Heavenly Father!
Second, Remember that other people depend on us to do our work. Messy bedroom (my worst enemy!)?
Well, what if mama want's to show her friends the house, how embarrassing it is to show off a messy room!
it may seem to be a "selfish" endeavor, believe me! I am one to put that off for any reason under the sun.
Thirdly, It gives us a feeling of accomplishment. one sleeps better and is happier if they have worked hard. they know they got what they needed to get done, done. I always feel better and healthier when i finish a goal! what a relief!
Remember, we must keep going! even when it is cold and cloudy and you'd rather stay in bed all day.
God bless!
-Dedicated Daughter
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